Communication Is The Cornerstone of Co-Parenting Success In Florida
At the Law Firm for Family Law, our Clearwater, Florida family law attorney has discussed both the benefits of pre-litigation mediation during divorce proceedings and knowing when collaborative divorce is right for you and your spouse.
Both avenues of divorce have one major thing in common: A path to create a stable, healthy environment for the children of divorce, which includes well thought out parenting plans that allow everyone to move forward in a positive way.
Mutual agreements, day-to-day changes, and major decisions dot the landscape of divorced parents’ lives from the moment they sign the papers through the time their children head out on their own.
So, what happens when life gets in the way, and your joint legal custody arrangement becomes strained? It’s time to return to the cornerstone of co-parenting success: Communication.
Don’t Be Afraid To Talk About Changes In Your & The Children’s Lives
The foundation of any co-parenting agreement should include recognizing the fact that as children grow, so will their needs from both parents. Likewise, as their parents move forward with their lives, their needs will change too.
Whether it is a job change that keeps them from assuming their current visitation schedule, or if the overall family dynamic has changed when parents remarry, the flexibility to communicate about the ebb and flow of everyday life is paramount to your parenting success.
As children age, they become more independent, and may not need rides home from school or soccer practice as often as they once did. Communicate those changes effectively, so everyone is on board with their part in the child’s growth, and no one is frustrated by the details getting lost in translation.
Don’t Be Afraid To Establish Household Rules or Learn The Other Parent’s Approach
Family rules are an important part of implementing structure and boundaries, which create respect within the household.
Sounds good, right?
In reality, two different households typically mean two sets of rules.
Work with the other parent to set limits that are consistent across the board, so you are parenting in unison. Things like bedtimes, screen times, and homework requirements can easily be discussed and implemented in both households. There will always be variations is what your kids eat, who they talk to, or how they behave when they are with one parent vs. the other, but some important ground rules can be enforced on both sides.
Don’t Be Afraid To Say Positive Things About The Other Parent
The reality of divorce is that is it can be incredibly challenging, no matter how well you and your ex-spouse formulate a parenting plan.
Frustration and disagreements can still occur, even though you are not longer married, and when they do, it is important to refrain from making negative comments about the other parent.
To help the children adjust when the other parent can’t hold up their end of the week’s schedule, remind them that life, work, and timing conflicts are part of the real world and that you are both there to help each other when it happens.
How Can The Law Firm For Family Law Help Me Establish A Positive Parenting Plan?
No matter which type of divorce you are pursuing, parenting plans are a mandatory part of the process for spouses with children. Our Pinellas County family law attorney, Gary Williams, is a Board Certified Expert in Marital and Family Law, a Board Certified Advocate, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who can help you determine your best parenting path through mediation, collaborative divorce, or from inside the courtroom. Contact the Law Firm For Family Law today at 727-531-8737 to schedule a free consultation and determine how to establish a positive parenting plan today.